Social media could be the platform….
..to air your dirty laundry for the whole world to see.
I’m sure we’ve all done it once or twice, directly or indirectly. I know I probably have and it niggles me every now and then that I was that immature.
I’d never want to be known as the person that writes a status about friends and family or situations that are annoying me at that moment in time.
The bottom line is that doing the above only leaves us with the feeling of looking a bit silly, a bit of an attention seeker. So why do we do it?
Because we want to get emotions of our chest. We want people to know exactly how we feel when we feel it or we want to put someone in their place. And the best and fastest way we can do that is by heading straight over to FB.
What I’ve learned since getting into my twenties is to wait 5 minutes! Take a deep breath and think of taking the high road.
Something happened, moments ago..something that enraged me. I wanted to scream it from the rooftops, I wanted to tell the whole world what some horrible ‘person’ had just done to someone who I love dearly.
In reality, saying anything on social media just makes you look like the bad person, or a ‘hard done by’ girl wanting some attention to get through an adult situation.
Because I love blogging I try to distinguish the difference between talking about real stuff, giving advice, relieving some tension compared to what is actually, me just being a bit of a b***h having a rant. Many times I send my blog to Cal or a best friend to read first to make sure it’s sensible and appropriate. I like to know that I haven’t exaggerated any circumstances and that I’m saying my truth.
Taking the high road
..is the morally proper choice. A good example of when taking the high road is the right thing to do is when someone calls you names and you are able to just turn and walk away instead of getting into an argument.
I think this is either something you are born with or something you have to learn over time.
I know that I can get so upset and angry when someone is doing something to hurt me and before (if I had the confidence) I would have reacted to this and confronted that person. Or better yet you could hide behind a computer/phone screen and not have to deal with it face to face, which is exactly when the confidence to be argumentative would shine through.
Learning to calm down however and not to react to everything can speak volumes about your character and personality. For example, my boyfriend Cal is so good at not getting rattled up. He is able to control his emotions so amazingly. Being around someone like that will eventually rub off on you.
I don’t want to be that person that reacts in a flash and then lets it all out on social media – and neither do you!
There can be a nasty side to airing everything out on social media. In this day and age where FaceBook, Instagram, Snapchat and so on are the main focus in any adolescent’s life, it is probably why bullying is rife online. If something that you’re saying on Facebook is going to upset someone personally – like attacking their looks or character, then this can be the definition of bullying. As well as it being mean, it is also cowardly. Anyone is brave enough to say anything when they have the protection of a screen or a keyboard.
But trust me, you don’t want to be known as a keyboard warrior!